Disclaimer: Parents please read this first.
I was looking through my facebook the other day and I read a post from my nephew Jb. It got me thinking about the choices I made when I was his age. If I knew then what I know now, my life could have turned out totally different. This blog is dedicated to my nephew and all teens out there. Maybe something I say will help at least one kid.
Teen Life Lesson #1 for Girls: Respect yourself!!! You are the most important person in your life. Just because you are a girl, don't give you the right to be stupid. I was brought up in a different time. Women were suppose to do as the man told them to do. It is not that way now. I love this thing they call Girl Power. You have a brain, and statistically at this age you are smarter than boys. If you want to be a strong, independent person, start now. If your friends are telling you something that just don't sit right with you, that is called instinct. That is your brain telling you don't do this. Listen to it. If your friends are trying to push you, they are not your friends. You are your own person, not part of the crowd. We are called individuals for a reason. Pick a path and follow your instincts, they will never let you down.
Teen Life Lesson #1 for Boys: Respect yourself!!! That is so funny, same as the girls. The choices you make now will reflect the man you will become. You have instincts just the same as girls, if it don't feel right, don't do it. "If your friends are all jumping off a cliff, are you going to?" Unless you are an adrenaline junkie, your answer should be no. You have so much to look forward to. Have enough respect for yourself to not follow the crowd. If your friends don't respect your decisions, then they become someone you use to hang out with. On the same note, don't be arrogant, but have pride. If you are doing good in school, yes be proud of that. Even better, help someone that isn't doing so good. If your friend isn't that good at sports, help them find out what is right for him. The true test of a man is, if you can look in the mirror and be proud of the man looking back at you.
Teen Life Lesson #2: Your parents are not the enemy. If you took the time to talk to your parents, ask questions, you would be surprised. Here is some homework for you to do. Ask your Mom or your Dad, or who ever you live with, a question. Now here is the fun part, ask an off the wall question. Something that will make them laugh, yet make them have to think about it. You see, this opens up a line of communication, so when you have a serious question to ask them, it might not be so hard. Your parents or the adult you live with need to laugh every now and then. My kids would totally catch me off guard with questions like that. It is also fun to watch your parents have a brain freeze.(my kids made it an art)
Teen Life Lesson #3: You are not an adult. If your not old enough to be a parent, don't become one. I was a teenage parent. I was 16 and had my first kid. I can tell you from experience, it's not as glamorous as T.V. makes it out to be. This is for both boys and girls. Guys, do you want to pay child support for the next 18 years and not watch your kids grow up? Girls, do you want to give up all you hopes and dreams? I wish I had listened to what people were telling me at 16. If you are not having sex, you cant get pregnant or get someone pregnant, plus you wont get some ugly problem that you will have to deal with the rest of your life. If you are having sex, STOP!!!!! If you don't stop, don't be stupid. Have enough respect to protect the both of you. I hope the parents who read this take the time to talk about sex with their kids. The more you are informed, the smarter choices you will make. If I sound a bit preachy, it is because if I had waited, my life would have been different. Life is hard enough, don't make it harder.
Teen Life Lesson #4: Go outside!!!! Life is not in a video game or cell phone. Find something to do that requires moving your ass. Start up a snow ball fight, get your friends together for kickball or softball, play a game of hoops, something. Homework again. For the guys, there is a great movie out there you should watch, it's called The Sandlot. Watch it!!! For the girls, the movie Now and Then. The time period that these movies are about, shows that kids didn't sit inside playing video games, didn't have cell phones attached to their ear or sit on facebook all day. Go for a walk with your friends, get out the bike or stakeboard and get out of the house for a while. Life is so much more fun when you are on the move. (your mom and dad would appreciate the quiet time)
Now these are just a few. I wanted to get the hard ones out of the way. I have a lot more, and I promise they will be fun to read. If you have any topic you want me to look into for you, I will be glad to take request.
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